When life is great and everything is working well for you, you dont quite seem to realise that you are living one of the greatest moments of your life, until you lose them. You keep complaining about petty things which actually do not matter much in life. And when suddenly all the happiness disappears, you feel invaded by a profound, heartbreaking sadness that envelopes your whole being, that cannot be overcome by all your courage. You were such a courageous human being who felt that you can do all that you possibly think you can, and suddenly you find yourself being dictated by events that happen in life. They just happened!
You will no longer want to complain about anything in life and would not view petty things under magnifying lens.Life gets tough when it starts dictating terms to you, but there is nothing that you can do to make it work otherwise. You can call it fate or destiny or whatever. It will have its final say. Things just happen and make you feel that they shouldn't have happened.As I said earlier, you do not seem to realise that you are living a happy life because you basically do not know the bad face of life as yet. You want more happiness and more and more. But theres an upper limit for happiness.
I sometimes wonder why life can't be fair to all. There is an upper limit for happiness, but I wonder why there is no lower limit for sadness. I am sure, people love this quote-"Life has its ups and downs". I absolutely agree with this..but the problem is that you do not relish your great moments because you do not know that they are great until you lose them. Yes..this is true. And when you lose them, you realise that its all over in a flash. And you start feeling: "Were all the great moments that I lived, a dream? Yes..it was a dream. Thats wasn't true" As you feel that you have no control over all that life has got in store for you, my only suggestion and the only best possible thing that you can probably do is -"Relish every moment in life"-we dont quite seem to do this.
These could be very small moments in life, like, going out for a walk on a cool summer morning with an elderly lady (who keeps advising all the way and you hate all of them-yes all of them, you will only realise its importance later), cooking(you keep saying that you would never want to cook again, not knowing that you will not be able to avoid it- although you hate every second of it), late dinner with family(you keep complaining about tasteless food, not knowing that, only worse is going to follow in a few days), shopping or riding bike or a long drive on a friday mid-night or even a night out at office! There are many many more such small things in life which we really dont seem to care much about. You will start caring about them when you will no longer have them. And you realise that its just too late.
So relish every single moment that you live. I repeat-"You-will-not-get-them-back".
All that you will be left with is sweet memories! I also feel that- "Instead of feeling sad that its over, feel happy that it happened". I know..its not as easy as I say..